Your standards are too high.
It’s crippling to hear these words come from a friend’s mouth, more so from a suitor. It pains you and makes you over-think it, slicing and dissecting those five painful words into syllables and letters, finding the accuracy of it rather stifling. What you aim to do next is see where you’ve set the bar far too high and lower it to match the others.
You should never listen to people who tell you you’ve got your standards too high. Why? Because they’re wrong. There’s obviously a reason why they’re called standards in the first place; people are supposed to live up to them.
A woman should keep her head, heels and standards up. All the time, every time. Never settle or lower your expectations for someone. If they don’t fulfill what’s on their shoulders, they’re undeserving. They can fall in love with you for all your worth once they’ve proven themselves.
One thing a woman must always have is knowledge. The knowledge of what she wants, the knowledge of what she is worth and the knowledge of realizing the difference.
If you want the guy you’re going to end up with to have a stable job, so be it. You’re a strong and independent woman who can pay for your expenses so what can he contribute to you?
If you want the guy you’re going to end up with to have a car, so be it. You can afford to transport yourself going to where you need to be, so what would you need from him if he didn’t?
If you want the guy you’re going to end up with to have the same religious views as you, so be it. You wouldn’t want someone who you’ll argue with about the simple working of faith and the force. You want someone who you can hold on to for hope and salvation, not someone who will contradict it.
If you want the guy you’re going to end up with to be intellectual, so be it. You are educated and it would be a drag to have to put up with a man who’s mentally incapable of keeping you interested in a topic other than pizza and football. Need I say more?
If you want the guy you’re going to end up with to pamper you and spoil you with luxuries, so be it. You can claim a gym membership and have weekly mani-pedi’s with matching haircuts by yourself, surely he must contribute twice of what you can do.
Whenever anyone would tell you that you expect too much, look them squarely in the eyes and say: “Yes, I know I do. I demand for a lot, simply because I am worth a lot.”