You’re Worth A Lot

Your standards are too high.

It’s crippling to hear these words come from a friend’s mouth, more so from a suitor. It pains you and makes you over-think it, slicing and dissecting those five painful words into syllables and letters, finding the accuracy of it rather stifling. What you aim to do next is see where you’ve set the bar far too high and lower it to match the others.

Don’t.

You should never listen to people who tell you you’ve got your standards too high. Why? Because they’re wrong. There’s obviously a reason why they’re called standards in the first place; people are supposed to live up to them.

A woman should keep her head, heels and standards up. All the time, every time. Never settle or lower your expectations for someone. If they don’t fulfill what’s on their shoulders, they’re undeserving. They can fall in love with you for all your worth once they’ve proven themselves.

One thing a woman must always have is knowledge. The knowledge of what she wants, the knowledge of what she is worth and the knowledge of realizing the difference.

If you want the guy you’re going to end up with to have a stable job, so be it. You’re a strong and independent woman who can pay for your expenses so what can he contribute to you?

If you want the guy you’re going to end up with to have a car, so be it. You can afford to transport yourself going to where you need to be, so what would you need from him if he didn’t?

If you want the guy you’re going to end up with to have the same religious views as you, so be it. You wouldn’t want someone who you’ll argue with about the simple working of faith and the force. You want someone who you can hold on to for hope and salvation, not someone who will contradict it.

If you want the guy you’re going to end up with to be intellectual, so be it. You are educated and it would be a drag to have to put up with a man who’s mentally incapable of keeping you interested in a topic other than pizza and football. Need I say more?

If you want the guy you’re going to end up with to pamper you and spoil you with luxuries, so be it. You can claim a gym membership and have weekly mani-pedi’s with matching haircuts by yourself, surely he must contribute twice of what you can do.

Whenever anyone would tell you that you expect too much, look them squarely in the eyes and say: “Yes, I know I do. I demand for a lot, simply because I am worth a lot.”

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Sad girls.

You’d never know what humanity is capable of until you put it to the test.

Never tell sad girls that you want them, until you’re ready to be called at three in the morning because of an anxiety attack. Never tell a sad girl you can take it, unless you can put up with hysterical sobs because of a stupid song. Never tell a sad girl you love her unless you really mean it.

These days, all I see are carcasses of once-happy girls that were full of life. Now, they have spiraled down to depression and every single bad thing will lead them to endless nights of crying and will remember it for exactly forever. I don’t pity these girls, because I know by experience that they wouldn’t want pity. They don’t want to be looked at with sad eyes and with thoughts that dub them as freaks. They need help, but with little attention as possible.

It takes everything, especially guts, to care for a girl like this. It takes everything not to walk away from her when she needs you most. It takes everything not to give up on her when she’s in one of her fits. It takes patience and enough love to make her feel okay again.

The problem with these sad girls, they aren’t very trusting. They think the whole world is against them and would not want to accept help from anyone, even someone who is deeply in love with them.

What they look for is someone they can love them for everything..

Before falling in love with a sad girl, you must fall in love with her bad things. You must fall in love with the way she pushes you away, but wanting you to chase her back. You must fall in love with the way she craves pizza at the most random times and must be prepared to be her delivery boy. You must fall in love with the way she looks after she showers, or the way she looks when she wakes up, or the way she looks like when she’s crying and find them all equally beautiful. You must fall in love with the way she tears up after finishing a great book and be ready to make her tea and hold her until she gets over it.  You must fall in love with her strength as she tries her best to stay happy. You must fall in love with the way she gets all insecure when she doesn’t wear makeup and always be there to encourage her that she looks amazing regardless.

After that, you can fall in love with the greater things. You can love her for the way she smiles as you push her hair into her ears. You can love her when she dresses up for you. You can love her laugh and her rare and happy moments. You can fall in love with the way she leaves little notes to show you she misses you. You can love her when she cooks for you. You can love her while she asks you to do her look for today or braid her hair or pick out her outfit.

If you can’t love her wholly, then don’t fall in love with her at all.

Prove to a sad girl that you are capable of understanding her with all of your heart, never losing your temper, never lifting a hand, never saying harsh words when she doesn’t deserve it. But also being able to make her the best person she can be without being sad with her. Prove to a sad girl that you are capable of giving her the world to the best you can.